June 16, 2011

A Husband's Guide (& a Giveaway!)

I feel like Sally Jesse Raphael this morning because we're going to talk about S-E-X today! 

Okay so not really, but I'm enough of a prude to feel weird writing this blog.  My bloggy friend (I can call her a friend cause she responds to my comments right?  Thought so) Marla Taviano just wrote an ebook about the subject and ask for a little help getting the world out.

Her book (and web site) The Husband's Guide to Getting Lucky was just released last night.  Ordinarily this isn't a topic I would discuss in polite company, but I respect Marla and, while I haven't yet read the book, trust that she handled the subject in a tasteful and Godly manner.

Her previous book From Blushing Bride to Wedded Wife has helped me tremendously in the area of loving my husband well.  (Jay might not think so - but imagine how it'd have been without the book!)

Marla took a few moments to answer question about the book (and herself) for this post:

1. What led you to write this book?

Well, I do like to write about sex. It's kind of become "my thing" over the last few years (along with zoos and Cambodia and Scrabble letters--I know, what a random collection, right?). Everybody likes to read about sex, but not a whole lot of Christian authors are brave enough to tackle the topic. So, it was kind of easy to find my niche.

I never thought I'd ever write a book for guys though. In my experience, guys don't read books. We'll see if they prove me wrong.

2. Who is the target audience? Can women benefit from reading it? How about a non-Christian man?

Husbands are my primary target, but women can absolutely benefit from reading it (and I imagine a lot of them are going to want to take a peek). They can also benefit from their husbands reading it.

You definitely don't have to be a Christian to enjoy this book. It's not preachy, and I try to steer clear of Christianese. However, my faith colors what I think/feel/believe about sex, so that's going to come through loud and clear. But if a guy is worried that the book will be stuffy or boring, he need not fear.

3. What's the single most important piece of advice you'd give married couples?

Figure out your spouse's love language (the way he/she interprets and receives love) and love him/her that way. In other words, if your wife's love language is "words of affirmation," shower her with genuine verbal praise whenever you get the chance. If your husband's love language is "acts of service," find out what he'd most like you to do for him and do it.

A lot of the miscommunication in marriage stems from the fact that we don't understand how our spouse wants to be loved. That and we're too selfish to follow through on it. (I know I'm guilty!)

4. What's your favorite kind of ice cream? (obviously not related to the book, but everyone loves ice cream!)
Are you sure everyone loves ice cream? Because, sadly, I don't. If you were going to force me to eat some, I'd pick some kind of coffee flavor or black raspberry chip. But ice cream isn't something I'd pick out of a line-up of delicious food. I'll take some nachos though!
Thanks Marla for answering my questions, although I do have to question that respect I was talking about earlier.  I mean who doesn't like ice cream?!? She does redeem herself though...by offering a copy of her book to one lucky reader of Smart + Strong = Sexy

I've got some changes in store for my Smart + Strong = Sexy readers in the next week or so.  For one entry (mandatory) comment on what you'd like to see in the new blog.  Something you'd like to see change or perhaps a regular feature you don't want to see go away.

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UPDATED - Giveaway ends next Wednesday at midnight.  Winner will be announced on Thursday.

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  1. I would love to see some pictures of the view you have. I love the Smokies and living where you do, I bet you have some incredible views. I would also want you to be sure and keep updating your Sisterhood entries. We hookers have to stick together.

  2. That books sounds awesome!!!!

    I would like to see.........I don't know....like the way it is!!!

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  4. What what!! I follow you, too!

    As for changes and new features...I've got too much change going on in my life right now, so I like this blog and you just as is!!! =)

  5. Hello, friend. You can't be TOO squeamish about the word SEX. You have SEXY in your header!

  6. Sounds like an interesting book - although not M's usual read :)

    I think we need more adventures of Super Boo. And pictures of your house, mountains, parks, etc.

  7. I have to agree with those that said we need more pictures of your home and view!

  8. So, now I'm a follower. I thought I already was, but surprise - I wasn't on your list!

  9. I can't wait to see your changes! I would love to see something that reflects your love of running! Maybe a new blog header with shoes and shoe prints prints....

  10. I'm not generally a fan of change, so I can't think of anything I'd like for you to change! Of course, that usually applies to changes that affect ME ~ so I think I can handle a few changes to your blog!

  11. I'd like to see more book reviews! P.s. Do I get a point for already following you on twitter?


  12. I like your Frugal Friday posts. :) Don't give those up, please!!

  13. Oh, and I already follow you (through Google Reader) but now I'm following you through Friend Connect :)


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